What is ‘transit love’ that Han So Hee and Ryu Jun Yeol have to try so hard to deny?
‘Transit love’ is a phrase that Han So Hee and Ryu Jun Yeol deny when mentioning their romantic relationship.
“Transit love” originates from a dating show of the same name produced in Korea. In Korean, transit love is read as “hwan-seung yeon-ae”, in which “hwan-seung” means transition, and “yeon-ae” means romantic relationship. This word refers to a person who has just broken up with an ex-lover and immediately begins to get to know and date someone new. Many people believe that the quick return to dating shows that before breaking up, they had planned to “keep one foot in and one foot out”.
According to a 2013 study by YouGov and dating website eHarmony, the time between the first date and declaring love differs between men and women. The average time it takes a man to fall in love is 88 days. And true feelings of love come to women after 134 days.
But the timeline for falling in love again after a breakup makes many people wonder. According to Paulette Kouffman Sherman, psychologist and author of Dating From the Inside Out, it’s difficult to give an exact number. It depends on how each individual gets over the old relationship, recovers, and opens their heart again. What’s more important than a specific time after leaving a relationship is your mental state. “Don’t rush into a new love right away as a way to fill the void. That’s unfair to both you and the new person,” Sherman said.
Some scientists have conducted actual research to determine the time it takes to fall in love again. A 2007 study in the Journal of Positive Psychology found that 71% of people who had just gone through a breakup felt better after about three months. In a survey of 2,000 people conducted by Yelp Eat24, USA in 2017, this time was 6 months. With divorces, 2009 research from the dating site 50s found that it took people an average of about 18 months to move on.
